If you look around in a public scene, you will often notice the difference of activities that occur between groups of girlfriends, and guy friends. Girls have closer friendships than boys. This is because girls grow closer and more comfortable with their friends than boys do. Many girls have a best friend or multiple, but they are commonly unhealthy. Shayla Mendoza, senior at Rocky, states that many of her friendships tend to be one sided in the sense that not both people in the friendships show the same effort at the same time, which can cause confusion and drifting between people. Girls can tend to fill their lives with things that cause them to be distracted from others and inconsiderate of their friends. Shayla also feels even with distance between her close friends, she feels most comfortable with them and never feels judged by them. Most highschoolers make friendships with people that have common humor or style, but for the people who hang on to the friends they meet at a younger age, they tend to grow apart while they gain character as they get older. Many friendships grow apart, but some stick together through the years.
Kolten Cruz, Sophomore at Rocky, explains that he encourages his friends to make good choices in their lives but doesn’t feel emotionally effected by their actions. Meanwhile Shayla, representing girls, feels more deeply about the actions of her dear friends and feels disappointment. At the same time, she tries to find empathy for her friends to understand why certain actions were made. Between both gender groups, friendships tend to have toxicity that occurs at least once in everyone’s lives. Toxic relationships are often based off of bullying by looks or unique personality, or it can come from people who don’t value friendships. From observations, boys seem to be much more energetic with friends and girls are more chill depending on the occasion, but this shows that girls can still feel connection and comfort just through the presence of their best friend or friends.
